in the other, enabling you to love this person as you love yourself. There is the comfort of familiarity in a love marriage. You can create. What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others. Plenty of people who will later do great things seem to be disappointments early on, when they're trying to find their niche. In the last several decades the Indian society has undergone tremendous change - the social fabric of society has become more flexible and girls are treated equal to boys. If you have to like something to do it well, then the most successful people will all like what they. Judaism actually idealizes this universal, unconditional love.
While arranged marriages come with greater security with greater involvement of parents, there remains the question of accepting a bunch of almost-stranger as your family for the rest of your life. All parents tend to be more conservative for their kids than they would for themselves, simply because, as parents, they share risks more than rewards. Grownups, like some kind of cursed race, had to work.
Love is the basis for the partners to come together in the relationship and with love comes mutual respect and commitment. Occasionally the things adults made you do were fun, just as, occasionally, playing wasn'tfor example, if you fell and hurt yourself. 4 I'm not saying friends should be the only audience for your work. There's no better wisdom Susan's mother could have imparted to her before marriage. When you're young, you're given the impression that you'll get enough information to make each choice before you need to make. Even if you succeed, it's rare to be free to work on what you want till your thirties or forties. At best you may have a couple internships, but not all jobs offer internships, and those that do don't teach you much more about the work than being a batboy teaches you about playing baseball. If you can do this easily, you'll love easily. The continuing popularity of religion is the most visible index of that. Whatever I thought he meant, I didn't think he meant work could literally be funfun like playing. Just because love is pre-existing, does not mean that it will continue to be so for eternity.